Forgot my iPhone passcode, any way in without wiping it?

Before you erase, make sure you actually know your Apple ID password. With Find My on, the phone asks for it after the reset (activation lock) and you won't get past setup without it. If you're not sure, reset it from another device first.

Short answer is no, sorry. Apple doesn't have a backdoor and anything online claiming to unlock it without erasing is either a scam or just does the erase for you. One exception: if you changed the passcode in the last 72 hours and you're on iOS 17 or newer, tap Forgot Passcode on the lock screen and you get an option to enter your previous passcode instead. Otherwise it's erase and restore. From the same Forgot Passcode screen you can erase it with your Apple ID password, or use recovery mode with a computer. Whether you get your stuff back depends entirely on whether there's an iCloud or computer backup. Check iCloud from another device before you erase so you know what you're getting.